There is no limit to the number of attendants that you may have in your
bridal party but the general rule of thumb to keep it simple. The bride
is attended by a matron or maid of honour, depending on her marital status,
bridesmaids and flower girls. The groom’s attendants are the best
man, groomsmen and the ring bearer.
of Honour - Best Man - Bridesmaids
- Groomsmen - Flower
Girl - Ring Bearer - Ushers
Usually an easy choice for the bride as this would be a best friend,
sister, or close family member. The matron/maid honour will be a legal
witness and sign the marriage certificate as well as hold your flowers,
adjust your veil or train when required during the ceremony.
She will also help you to get dressed on the day as well as organise
the other bridesmaids’ attire. Traditionally, the matron/maid
of honour will sit next to the groom on the bridal table at the reception.
The best man will be a person close to the groom and will take on
one of the most important roles at the wedding. He too will be a legal
witness and sign the marriage certificate as well as handing the rings
to the celebrant during the ceremony. The best man will also finalise
any payments, if required, to the celebrant or minister. He will also
propose a toast at the reception as well as respond to the toast for
the bridesmaids and read any letters or telegrams sent to the bride
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sure you introduce yourself and mention your relationship with the
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Don't speak too fast and keep a slow and steady pace. Pronounce
your words clearly and loud enough for everyone to hear.
- Thank the parents of the bride and groom if they paid for the
event. If the bride and groom are footing the bill themselves, thank
them for inviting everyone to share their special day.
- Relate a story or use an inspirational quote.
- End with a message of hope and congratulateions
The bridesmaids will normally assist with the opening of both the
engagement and wedding gifts and be responsible for recording the
gifts next to the guest name for later acknowledgement by the bride
and groom. If the bride chooses, the bridesmaids would organise a
kitchen tea and also the bride’s hens party.
Groomsmen would help the best man with the reading of the telegrams
and letters at the reception. They would escort the bridesmaids during
the day and participate in the bridal waltz with their designated
They would assist the best man in any pre-wedding activities such
as a bucks party if required and overseeing the collection and return
of the men’s suits if hired.
Flower girls are junior versions of the bridesmaids and generally
wear a dress of similar style and colour to the bride.
The flower girl usually carries a small basket or posy of flowers,
although it has become more popular for her to carry a basket of rose
petals and, preceding the bride, strew them along her path. The best
age for flower girls is between five and ten years. Girls younger
than five may be overwhelmed with a lot of guests and may get stage
fright at the last minute. Flower girls can be seated at the main
bridal table but it may be wise to seat them with their parents or
people with whom they will feel comfortable.
The role of the ring bearer is to carry the rings into the ceremony,
usually on a cushion with the rings gently attached.
The ring bearer can be either a young boy or girl, it depends on the
bride and groom but the most popular choice is a boy to partner the
flower girl. If so, the ring bearer would be attired in similar fashion
to the men in the bridal party. Give thought to the age of your ring
bearer, as like the flower girl, it may be overwhelming to a tiny
An usher’s role is generally to hand out out any ‘order of
service’ booklets at the church and to seat guests as they arrive
at the church. Guests of the bride are seated to the left and the groom’s
guests will be to the right. If the majority of guests are mutual friends
of the bride and groom, they can be seated on either side. The immediate
families will sit in the front pew with the mother of the groom being
seated approximately five minutes prior to the processional.
The mother of the bride is seated just prior to the commencement of the
processional and any late guests should not be seated until after the
processional. Ushers would escort both mothers to their seats.